Every single thing you have or don’t have up until now is a direct reflection of what you’ve done in the past. Taking ownership of this is the first step to side step all the bullshit and passing of the blame, and being able to move on as of right now!
Now, you’re probably sitting there and saying to yourself, “Bullshit, he doesn’t know half the shit I’ve been through!” True, I don’t. But does that have any bearing on where you go from here? Or is that just another excuse you use as to why you can’t have all the things you don’t have?
Personally, I’ve gone through some massive light bulb moments over the past week in Bali. Some that even myself, who hates being told what to do, had the moment when I thought to myself, “Shit, I miss so much because of how I tune things out when I don’t want to hear them.” Or how much I miss when I don’t say something. Like how I feel at the time, what’s racing through my head, and what I may want someone to know. Now, there is a lot of people reading this thinking, “You only just worked that out Liam?!!!!” WOW, you’ve been doing that for years! Well, no shit Sherlock, and it took me 31 years to work it out. 10 years ago, hell, even 10 days ago, I would have agreed with you if you said you don’t listen to other peoples opinions because you’ve already made your mind up. I’ve known it for years, but it was only now that I’ve identified it has a negative impact on my life. So now, I’m choosing to change.
On Day 4 on our Bali Retreat, we took the gang out for a sensational group dinner at La Laguna in Canggu as part of our philosophy of “Enjoy the process!” After dinner, on our way out to the car, we all ventured in to a tarot card readers little gypsy caravan. Initially it was only to sit in while one of the ladies had their cards read. That quickly escalated into all 8 of us having them read… What an experience that was, especially for someone like me who is quite closed mind to those sorts of things. It was an eye opening experience for me especially. Some of the cards, that I chose, were so true. But, from those cards, I could see so much, and I learned so much, especially when a person who doesn’t know me from a bar of soap, could basically just break my life down into certain reactions, emotions, and everything else that I’ve been doing and am still doing that has gotten me to where I am RIGHT NOW!
Apart from that gypsy caravan experience, spending 7 nights with 7 beautiful ladies from all walks of life was also a great life lesson in itself. I often come away from my retreats and have learnt something new about myself that I often choose to ignore, or have never taken the time to acknowledge it before. A lot of topics we spoke about always hit a different chord each time I teach them. And this time around was no different. I discovered things that I do in my own life, that are not the best thing for me, my values and what I want out of my life.
Now, I will ask you some questions.
What are you not happy with in your life?
What are you doing to change this?
Is this outcome well aligned with your personal values? Meaning what you truly value and what you want from your life?
Are they different?
How can you change your actions to more align with your personal values?
Did this help?
For me, I identified things in my business life, which was and is having a direct impact on my personal values, and the things I want out of my business. Basically, the main reasons I do what I do now, and run the business I do, is to support my personal values and end goals, yet certain things I do day-to-day are not aligned with those values and end goals. So I basically need to make changes.
If you’re not happy with your current weight or body, you can go one of 2 ways;
1. Blame everything else.
2. Own that shit and make a change.