Every day I see people comparing themselves to social media images, their friends, siblings, family and anybody else who they believe has something they would prefer.
Regardless of what it is the person wants, it consumes their lives until they either move on to the next thing or satisfy their desire.
Most of the time, this is in regard to their physical body issues. Someone wants the body of someone else rather than working with what they have and creating something amazing with their own. We are all created so differently, and were never intended to fit into the same mould, yet time and time again people lose interest and motivation because they don't achieve an unrealistic goal they had set for themselves. The search for imperfection.
When it comes to idolising someone because of how they look, it's very important to look beyond that and understand that that person was given those attributes and they may be totally different to what you were given. You might be taller, shorter, skinnier, broader, more curvy, less curvy, it doesn't matter. All that matters is that you know you can still be happy with what you can create within your own personal body and life.
Don't strive to be someone you're not, because you're not them. Sure, I've been there, done that, and quickly realised it's simply not something I wanted anyway. I moved on and went about becoming the strongest and healthiest version of ME possible. What I have been able to achieve with this in mind has been very impressive and I'm truly happy with my outcome. Had I kept going in the other direction, who knows where I would be right now, but I can guarantee you this, I wouldn't have had anywhere near as much fun in the process.
Every day is still dedicated to what I want within myself, and building on what I have, but I never compare myself to anyone, nor do I wish I had something different than what I've got currently. It doesn't matter where you're at, and I love this saying, "Don't compare your beginning with someone else's middle". So especially if you're just starting out, don't compare yourself to someone who may have been doing that very thing for 5, 10, 15 years.
As you begin to shift your thinking, you'll begin to notice how much happier you are and how much more you start "living", your stress decreases, and your life improves overall.
You are only in 'competition' against yourself, nobody else. I even use the word competition lightly, because there will still be days where you're just not feeling it. You've had long days at work, your diet hasn't been perfect, you had a late night, it doesn't matter, these will always keep happening, don't let them effect you.
Your aim is simple, be better than you were yesterday. If you can sustain this over time, you'll achieve some really remarkable results.
The Simple Steps:
- Make healthier food choices.
- Train hard every time.
- Take time out to enjoy life.
- Understand why you're making changes to your lifestyle.
- Be clear on what you want, and how you're going to achieve it.
By following these simple steps, you'll begin to enjoy the process more and start to make better decisions with YOU in mind, rather than someone else, and never truly achieving your ideal goal, because there will always be 'someone else'.
Love who you are, and believe in what you are capable of.